Reaction To Advice

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Most human beings are helpful,
or try to be. It's not
uncommon for one human to offer
advice if he/she see another
human being going through issues,
circumstances.

It's up to you whether or not
to take the advice. You, always,
have a choice.

There are people who get offended
by helpful advice. Some resent
the fact that someone tried to
help.

"She thinks she's better than
me." A person said.

She isn't thinking about
herself. Her main concern
is to help.

A negative reaction to advice
makes everything worse, and you
can end up without that friend.

"Why is he criticizing me?"
Another person argued.

It's possible that while going
through an emotional time, your
judgement becomes impaired.
A human being not directly involved
can see the problem clearer, and
suggest a meaningful way to handle
it.

It has nothing to do with finding
fault with you, or your decision.
In its simpliest terms, one human
being helping another.

So, if you argued, said things
you shouldn't have, step back
from the situation. Take some
time to really look at it.
Ask yourself some questions.

Would the person trying to help
you provide the wrong information?
Have you trusted him/her in the
past, and his/her advice was right,
helpful? Can you trust what he/
she is saying? Have that person
been a friend to you in times of
a storm before? Are you over-
reacting? Is someone else's
opinion clouding the solution,
or something else going on? If
yes, uncover and address it.

Yes, it's hard when you're going
through the storm, but it ends.
You have to apologize, make amends,
and/or right the wrong.

Most times, it depends on how
badly you over-reacted as to
if it can be fixed.

Generally, human beings are
forgiving, understanding.
They'll take into account
the circumstances you were
facing.

If your reaction was so bad
to advice that your apology
isn't accepted, move on.
Matters will only get worse
if you try to force it.

Learn from your mistakes.

In closing, listen to
different points of view.
It is up to you if you stir
it into the decision.

The important point is
to temper your reaction
to advice, and deal with
the issue(s) at hand.