The Disappearance of Hannah Graham

The disappearance of Hannah Graham, 18-year-old, from a Downtown Mall in Charlottesville, Virginia has led police forensically to a student disappearance that happened in 2009, according to reports. Morgan Harrington, 20-year-old, who was a Virginia Tech student also disappeared. Police found Jesse Matthew's  DNA on Harrington which is the same person last seen with Hannah Graham. It suggests that the two had some kind of contact.

There is no doubt of the link between the Graham case and the death of Harrington. There is a "forensic link," Virginia State Police. An arrest has been made in the Harrington case, but what or who was responsible for her death is yet to be determined.

The last lead in the Harrington case occurred in 2010. It happened when a kidnapping and sexual assault of a third woman in 2005, Fairdax, Virginia, was linked by police to Harrington. The woman survived and was able to tell police what her attacker looked like.

Harrington's mother has made pleads for Matthew to tell where Graham is. "Just confess if you still have a spark of humanity." She recently learned of how he is a possible suspect in her daughter's killing. The police are working with the new information to see where and how it fits together. 

Matthew has his friends and supporters. Matthew is chargeed with aduction with intent to defile in the disappearance of Hannah Graham. His friends and supporters are raising money for his legal fund. It is to pay for legal costs.

There is a Help Find Hannah Graham Facebook page. The page has over 39,000 likes. It shares information and opinions. The goal is to help find Graham.

The Third Side of Domestic Abuse

The third side of domestic abuse is standing up for family, friends and siblings. Males are taught the role from an early age. Females are instructed to fight back when there are no males to fill the position. It is not just the norm for a specific segment of society. Think about it. How many people have you heard say, "I'll get 'em back for you." Or, "we'll get 'em." This belief or attitude is carried within until an incident like what Ray Rice, the former Balitimore Ravens running back, did to his then fiancée, Janay Palmer.

TMZ exposed a clip ( http://www.tmz.com/videos/0_ekaflcqq/) displaying how in February at one Atlantic City casino Rice knocked his, at the time, fiancee down and unconscious. The video became the topic of conversation on social media, office coolers and streets. Rice's behavior ignited talk about violence against women and the violence on Palmer. The third side of domestic abuse has to be recognized for what it is and managed. Some people grow pass the third side of domestic abuse without intervention. They learn to talk without fists.

Domestic violence is learned in childhood, research shares. Adults were studied as children who witnessed violence against those they loved and who cared for them. The people studied declared to never take part in domestic violence, but, often, they do. 

Rice's behavior has spread controversy on the NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell as to whether or not Goodell should step down (http://www.cbsnews.com/news/ray-rice-controversy-roger-goodell-facing-increasing-scrutiny-from-nfl/). Goodell maintained that the first video made him uneasy, but the "extremely graphic" video made him ill, CBS news. The league office was not aware of a video until it became public on Monday, Goodell. When the league gained knowledge of Rice's video can not change the third side of domestic abuse.

This is a teachable moment. All of the leagues should take notes. Each league should use preventative measures. Talk about domestic abuse in a warm and understanding atmosphere. Domestic abuse has to be addressed as it is found. Employ the necessary experts to handle it. Teach classes on domestic abuse. When people learn better, they live productive and less abusive lives. 

The third side of domestic abuse as it relates to Rice is yet to be written. Rice is talented and able to perform on the football field. There's a new lesson for him to learn, like so many others about walking away instead of using physical violence. He and his wife can get the necessary help, live well and Rice may, again, play football.