Ask me a question, or leave me
a comment.
You've had a friend for years,
just met a friend, or would
like to be his or her friend
then read on.
You two have seen eye to eye
on almost everything, or hit
it off well.
You don't get nervous in front
of your friend, can tell him or
her anything. Your friend
understands, and never makes
rude comments about your
decisions. He or she stands
by you.
Your soon to be friend cares
nothing about flaws, laughs
at your off-beat jokes, and
enjoys being around you.
However, your friend or
almost friend knows someone
who is annoying, pushy even.
"How do I handle him or her?"
You sighed.
It's wise not to get into a
verbal battle, or any
confrontation with him or her.
Explain your feelings, if
necessary, to your friend.
Allow your friend to
get a handle on the situation.
Be polite to the friend's
friend. Yes, it's hard when
someone rather be any place
else than in your presence.
Eventually, things have a
way of working out.
Perhaps, the friend's friend
will accept you, and be
cordial.
If not, don't allow the
negativity from the friend's
friend to spoil your
relationship.
Good friends are hard to find.
In closing, be polite to someone
who dislikes you. Most times,
it's not your fault. Out of
respect for a friend, don't
insult your friend's friend.
Simply, ask him or her to say
what they have to in front of
your mutual friend.
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Reaction To Advice
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a comment.
Most human beings are helpful,
or try to be. It's not
uncommon for one human to offer
advice if he/she see another
human being going through issues,
circumstances.
It's up to you whether or not
to take the advice. You, always,
have a choice.
There are people who get offended
by helpful advice. Some resent
the fact that someone tried to
help.
"She thinks she's better than
me." A person said.
She isn't thinking about
herself. Her main concern
is to help.
A negative reaction to advice
makes everything worse, and you
can end up without that friend.
"Why is he criticizing me?"
Another person argued.
It's possible that while going
through an emotional time, your
judgement becomes impaired.
A human being not directly involved
can see the problem clearer, and
suggest a meaningful way to handle
it.
It has nothing to do with finding
fault with you, or your decision.
In its simpliest terms, one human
being helping another.
So, if you argued, said things
you shouldn't have, step back
from the situation. Take some
time to really look at it.
Ask yourself some questions.
Would the person trying to help
you provide the wrong information?
Have you trusted him/her in the
past, and his/her advice was right,
helpful? Can you trust what he/
she is saying? Have that person
been a friend to you in times of
a storm before? Are you over-
reacting? Is someone else's
opinion clouding the solution,
or something else going on? If
yes, uncover and address it.
Yes, it's hard when you're going
through the storm, but it ends.
You have to apologize, make amends,
and/or right the wrong.
Most times, it depends on how
badly you over-reacted as to
if it can be fixed.
Generally, human beings are
forgiving, understanding.
They'll take into account
the circumstances you were
facing.
If your reaction was so bad
to advice that your apology
isn't accepted, move on.
Matters will only get worse
if you try to force it.
Learn from your mistakes.
In closing, listen to
different points of view.
It is up to you if you stir
it into the decision.
The important point is
to temper your reaction
to advice, and deal with
the issue(s) at hand.
a comment.
Most human beings are helpful,
or try to be. It's not
uncommon for one human to offer
advice if he/she see another
human being going through issues,
circumstances.
It's up to you whether or not
to take the advice. You, always,
have a choice.
There are people who get offended
by helpful advice. Some resent
the fact that someone tried to
help.
"She thinks she's better than
me." A person said.
She isn't thinking about
herself. Her main concern
is to help.
A negative reaction to advice
makes everything worse, and you
can end up without that friend.
"Why is he criticizing me?"
Another person argued.
It's possible that while going
through an emotional time, your
judgement becomes impaired.
A human being not directly involved
can see the problem clearer, and
suggest a meaningful way to handle
it.
It has nothing to do with finding
fault with you, or your decision.
In its simpliest terms, one human
being helping another.
So, if you argued, said things
you shouldn't have, step back
from the situation. Take some
time to really look at it.
Ask yourself some questions.
Would the person trying to help
you provide the wrong information?
Have you trusted him/her in the
past, and his/her advice was right,
helpful? Can you trust what he/
she is saying? Have that person
been a friend to you in times of
a storm before? Are you over-
reacting? Is someone else's
opinion clouding the solution,
or something else going on? If
yes, uncover and address it.
Yes, it's hard when you're going
through the storm, but it ends.
You have to apologize, make amends,
and/or right the wrong.
Most times, it depends on how
badly you over-reacted as to
if it can be fixed.
Generally, human beings are
forgiving, understanding.
They'll take into account
the circumstances you were
facing.
If your reaction was so bad
to advice that your apology
isn't accepted, move on.
Matters will only get worse
if you try to force it.
Learn from your mistakes.
In closing, listen to
different points of view.
It is up to you if you stir
it into the decision.
The important point is
to temper your reaction
to advice, and deal with
the issue(s) at hand.
Saturday, September 13, 2008
Skin Color Matters?
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a comment.
O.J. Simpson jury neither his
dream nor nightmare
By LINDA DEUTSC
LAS VEGAS (AP) — It is not the jury
of O.J. Simpson's dreams, but neither
does it shape up to be his nightmare.
The all-white jury that on Monday
will begin judging him and a co-
defendant on robbery and kidnapping
charges was culled from an initial
pool of 500 who answered questionnaires,
and the remaining dozens who were later
quizzed in the courtroom.
Prosecutors removed two prospective African-
American jurors with their challenges.
Simpson's lawyers managed to eliminate those
with the strongest opinions about his 1995
acquittal on murder charges. Prospective
jurors who said Simpson got away with murder
have been thanked and told to go home.
The ones who remained when jury selection
ended late Thursday night said they could
put aside any residual opinions about the
slaying of Simpson's ex-wife, Nicole Brown
Simpson, and her friend Ronald Goldman.
"All in all, I can't imagine that an
all-white jury is what O.J. or his lawyers
were hoping for," said Michael Shapiro,
a New York defense lawyer who has followed
the Las Vegas case and provided commentary
during Simpson's 1995 murder acquittal in
Los Angeles.
Most of the jury members said they didn't
care that much about Simpson's "Trial of
the Century" when it was televised gavel
to gavel.
Full story at:
http://ap.google.com/article/ALeqM5iUNgbOr-2bnpFUX0MiII6je2CkRAD935GKGO0
***************************************
I've sat on a jury, and, for me, skin
color isn't a factor.
The facts of the case, instructions
from the judge, and each witness'
testimony should be put under the
microscope.
What do you think?
a comment.
O.J. Simpson jury neither his
dream nor nightmare
By LINDA DEUTSC
LAS VEGAS (AP) — It is not the jury
of O.J. Simpson's dreams, but neither
does it shape up to be his nightmare.
The all-white jury that on Monday
will begin judging him and a co-
defendant on robbery and kidnapping
charges was culled from an initial
pool of 500 who answered questionnaires,
and the remaining dozens who were later
quizzed in the courtroom.
Prosecutors removed two prospective African-
American jurors with their challenges.
Simpson's lawyers managed to eliminate those
with the strongest opinions about his 1995
acquittal on murder charges. Prospective
jurors who said Simpson got away with murder
have been thanked and told to go home.
The ones who remained when jury selection
ended late Thursday night said they could
put aside any residual opinions about the
slaying of Simpson's ex-wife, Nicole Brown
Simpson, and her friend Ronald Goldman.
"All in all, I can't imagine that an
all-white jury is what O.J. or his lawyers
were hoping for," said Michael Shapiro,
a New York defense lawyer who has followed
the Las Vegas case and provided commentary
during Simpson's 1995 murder acquittal in
Los Angeles.
Most of the jury members said they didn't
care that much about Simpson's "Trial of
the Century" when it was televised gavel
to gavel.
Full story at:
http://ap.google.com/article/ALeqM5iUNgbOr-2bnpFUX0MiII6je2CkRAD935GKGO0
***************************************
I've sat on a jury, and, for me, skin
color isn't a factor.
The facts of the case, instructions
from the judge, and each witness'
testimony should be put under the
microscope.
What do you think?
Monday, September 1, 2008
Flirting
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me a comment.
By Martha Beck
(OPRAH.com) -- We'd been waiting
30 minutes for someone to take
our order in a busy Mexican
restaurant when my friend Cathy
decided to take extreme measures.
Expert: Different flirting techniques
can get you anyone or the one you
really want.
"Watch this," she whispered. Then she
tugged the clip from her hair, opened
a collar button, and tossed her head
like a frolicking foal. Almost magically,
she went from being simply beautiful to
what is referred to in the vernacular as
"like, totally hot."
Three waiters rushed our table like
linebackers. Cathy fluttered her lashes
at one, cooing, "Hon, could we order
now?" It was a virtuoso performance of
attraction in action.
For me, this was like watching documentary
footage about something ("Mating Behavior
Among Bipedal Primates of the American
Southwest") that I've never personally
experienced. It's not that I totally lack
skills like Cathy's. She can toss her head
and attract men; I can -- to cite just one
example -- toss fried chicken and attract
cats.
But I could never use feminine wiles the way
Cathy can. I'm not sure I've ever had a
single wile. I used to enjoy pitying myself
for this, until one day I realized that
everyone for whom I've felt genuine sexual
interest eventually expressed reciprocal
interest in me. While shortchanging me
compared with Cathy, Mother Nature still
provided me with the instinctive ability
to make the connections I really wanted.
Now, if you have Gisele Bündchen problems
(your Manolo Blahniks keep skidding in
puddles of drool left by lustful admirers),
please turn directly to an underwear ad
and enjoy the company of other genetically
blessed people like you. This column
contains instructions on seduction for
the rest of us. Oprah.com: How to reconnect
with your inner bombshell.
*****************************************
My reaction would have been to wait until
a waiter came over. I would of started
a conversation to lighten-up the
atmosphere. Yes, I would have used
the one word conversation starter.
What would you have done?
me a comment.
By Martha Beck
(OPRAH.com) -- We'd been waiting
30 minutes for someone to take
our order in a busy Mexican
restaurant when my friend Cathy
decided to take extreme measures.
Expert: Different flirting techniques
can get you anyone or the one you
really want.
"Watch this," she whispered. Then she
tugged the clip from her hair, opened
a collar button, and tossed her head
like a frolicking foal. Almost magically,
she went from being simply beautiful to
what is referred to in the vernacular as
"like, totally hot."
Three waiters rushed our table like
linebackers. Cathy fluttered her lashes
at one, cooing, "Hon, could we order
now?" It was a virtuoso performance of
attraction in action.
For me, this was like watching documentary
footage about something ("Mating Behavior
Among Bipedal Primates of the American
Southwest") that I've never personally
experienced. It's not that I totally lack
skills like Cathy's. She can toss her head
and attract men; I can -- to cite just one
example -- toss fried chicken and attract
cats.
But I could never use feminine wiles the way
Cathy can. I'm not sure I've ever had a
single wile. I used to enjoy pitying myself
for this, until one day I realized that
everyone for whom I've felt genuine sexual
interest eventually expressed reciprocal
interest in me. While shortchanging me
compared with Cathy, Mother Nature still
provided me with the instinctive ability
to make the connections I really wanted.
Now, if you have Gisele Bündchen problems
(your Manolo Blahniks keep skidding in
puddles of drool left by lustful admirers),
please turn directly to an underwear ad
and enjoy the company of other genetically
blessed people like you. This column
contains instructions on seduction for
the rest of us. Oprah.com: How to reconnect
with your inner bombshell.
*****************************************
My reaction would have been to wait until
a waiter came over. I would of started
a conversation to lighten-up the
atmosphere. Yes, I would have used
the one word conversation starter.
What would you have done?
Sunday, August 31, 2008
How To Keep A Conversation Going
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a comment.
You're sitting next to someone
you'd like to talk to, but your
mouth dried out. There isn't a
mumble from you, for twenty
minutes. The two of you are
looking at the cracks in the
ground, and she decides to
depart. Or, she doesn't
want to be in your company,
again.
What a bad moment in your
life?
Keep the conversation going by
saying one word, any word.
Yes, one word.
The word hair, for example.
"Your hair is nice."
Put any other words with it.
The person will comment, and
the conversation keeps going.
If the it stops, try another
word.
Look at the situation of being
in a meeting. You have questions,
thoughts, but can't spit them out.
A few are talking, but they
counted on your input to put it
over the top.
What do you tell them when the
meeting is over?
The one word would have helped.
Smile, for instance, would
have taken your mind away from
the tension.
It would have allowed you to
articulate words.
Take a breath, let it out slowly,
and say your word. Practice at
home, if necessary.
Use one word conversation starters
in a family gatherings, meetings,
and/or any congregation of people.
You will be amazed at the conversations
one word can ignite.
a comment.
You're sitting next to someone
you'd like to talk to, but your
mouth dried out. There isn't a
mumble from you, for twenty
minutes. The two of you are
looking at the cracks in the
ground, and she decides to
depart. Or, she doesn't
want to be in your company,
again.
What a bad moment in your
life?
Keep the conversation going by
saying one word, any word.
Yes, one word.
The word hair, for example.
"Your hair is nice."
Put any other words with it.
The person will comment, and
the conversation keeps going.
If the it stops, try another
word.
Look at the situation of being
in a meeting. You have questions,
thoughts, but can't spit them out.
A few are talking, but they
counted on your input to put it
over the top.
What do you tell them when the
meeting is over?
The one word would have helped.
Smile, for instance, would
have taken your mind away from
the tension.
It would have allowed you to
articulate words.
Take a breath, let it out slowly,
and say your word. Practice at
home, if necessary.
Use one word conversation starters
in a family gatherings, meetings,
and/or any congregation of people.
You will be amazed at the conversations
one word can ignite.
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