Dating

Texting Everyone 

Dating comes with joys, ups and eruptions. Life continues along a path no matter who you date. It depends on the people involved in a relationship as to how much joys, ups and erupting stirs-into the relationship. How in the World of Relationships do I know, you wondered. I've been around long enough, talked with many friends/relatives, to know about dating. Of course, there's nothing wrong with not dating. It's just a matter of choice.

Dating brings joys when you're in a relationship with a person that is looking for the same kind of joys as you're seeking. There can't be much joy when one of the people in a relationship attracts drama, negativity. Why? A new problem or drama filled scene awaits as he/she is texting everyone about this rumor, that lie or the other fabrication. The other relationship partner is in the dark until there's an eruption. The eruption may come from someone angry at one or both people in the relationship, a person who just likes drama or an individual with an agenda.

A way to avoid an eruption is know what you want from the dating process. It's done by taking the time to be single, get to know what you like. You have to be secure in what you like, want, before enjoying as many ups as possible. Avoid hopping into any arm that's extended to you. Pick the right arm from the many extended arms. Learn to say "no." Or, expect fewer joys if you fail to learn the word "no." Eruptions will happen most of the time when you can't say "no."

Dating should be an activity that's not entered into easily. Ask yourself questions. Is he/she what I need to better my life. No one should come into your life with unnecessary drama or bad intentions. Bad intentions could be for you or others. Bad intentions equals eruptions, and it's rare that a anything good comes from them. The questioning process continues. Why should I have a relationship with ___________? What are his/her good qualities? Bad qualities? It's better when the good qualities out-weighs the bad qualities. Am I comfortable or could be comfortable with his/her bad habits? Job? Baggage? Will he/she help me get to the places that I want to go? Will I be a positive influence in his/her life? Add the questions that pertain to your life.

Dating, like other serious life processes, must be taken with caution or prepare for many eruptions with few joys. It's possible to know what you want, select carefully and end living with more eruptions. The first step in a situation like that is recognizing it. Ease yourself out of it. A mistake was made. Move on. Cry on your pillow, if necessary. Learn from the mistakes. Don't just move on. Upgrade to a better relationship and life. Simply, keep reaching for life's positive ventures.