Wednesday, June 17, 2009

10 ways to tell if your relationship is based on sex by Brandi Fleeks

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10) The deepest conversation you have is in bed. Either during the deed or after, you two divulge you inner-most secrets between the sheets.

You rarely have a conversation outside of the bedroom. When you do have any meaningful conversation it is pillow-talk, mostly about sex. It can be from your first or most horrendous sexual experiences to the bad sexual escapades of your friends. You avoid conversation that involves any deep insight about yours or your “significant other’s life.” Rather than talk about your hopes and dreams, you keep the conversation to something that won’t make your bed partner uncomfortable, and make sure to avoid anything that shows your intelligence or any inkling of ambition.

9) Any argument always ends up with the two of you naked.

Sure make-up sex is fun and satisfying and could possibly lead to the resolution of a nonsense argument, but all you do is end up in the sack when an argument starts. You don’t actually work out whatever it was that started the argument and you don’t really seem to care. As long as the two of you are naked, you are satisfied. This kind of thing can be enjoyable in the beginning but all it does is leave unresolved issues to the last moment when you are at odds with your lover. You’ve never come to a resolution to anything and now it is too late for you to talk it out. You’ve been having sex whenever either of you takes issue with any aspect of your relationship and now it’s coming to an end all either of you has to show for it is the hickey you got when you were hot and heavy over a disagreement.

8) Your friends call him/her Mr. Lover lover or some variation of that.
You don’t know what your bed buddy’s last name is, and to be honest, you really don’t care. You’re having fun with your sack sessions and nothing can convince you otherwise, even when your friend invites you to her 25th birthday party and the invitation says, Melissa and “friend.” The only thing your friends know about him/her is where you met and how many times you or she stayed the night at your place.

7) You don’t know any of her family member’s names.If in all your bedroom convos not once did your bedmate mention his or her family member’s names your relationship is base on sex. This does not include names of exes or friends. These names probably come up more than mom or dad’s names. If you can’t discern between a sister or mother’s name, chances are you have only been given the bare minimum of personal information and your relationship is nothing other than a sack session away from “this isn’t working out.

6) You’ve never had a first date.

Okay, so you met one night at your friend’s celebration or birthday party and you happened to end up naked with your now-booty buddy. You didn’t discuss how you knew the person or even how you knew anyone else at the party. That’s fine, but now you don’t even know how your “friend” knew the person or even a friend of the person the night you went home with him/her. You are pretty much on a don’t ask don’t tell basis. This, does not a relationship make.

Since meeting you’ve never ventured far from the bedroom and you don’t really have any desire to do so. You like being on a “from the living room to the bedroom” status and nothing you or your friends think can make you change your mind. You aren’t interested in learning the inner workings of your booty buddy’s mind and any attempt from him/her just makes you lose interest. You are in a relationship baed on sex and you like it.

5) What color are his/her eyes?

You barely made enough contact, before you ended up naked, to determine what eye-color your bed-mate has. Sure this doesn’t sound like a problem but when it comes time for gift buying you are at a loss as to what this person really likes. You’ve spent most of the time in darkened rooms naked together and you haven’t found out much about your bed-mate to discern whether he/she likes the color blue or the color red. If you don't know if her/his eyes are brown, green or blue you might want to ask yourself why are are spending so much time between the sheets with him/her

4) You have nothing in common.

You don’t know what he does for a living, what is favorite football team is, what is favorite color is or what he thinks about the death penalty. You’ve spent all your time pleasing each other, and none of your time getting to know each other. Your only real divulgences to each other have been whether or not you enjoy being spanked or have a predilection to being tied up. There is nothing wrong with this but when it comes time to interact in pubic, you are at a loss for what to say to each other.

3) When you go shopping, you only shop for condoms.

So you manage to make it outside the bedroom. You’re at the store and all you can think to compromise on is the type of condom to buy. He thinks you should get ribbed for her pleasure, glow in the dark, everlasting pleasure condoms. You don’t argue and you even forget what you went to the store for. This would not be such a problem but you’ve known each other for four weeks and still don’t know each other’s last names.

2) Over the phone, all your conversation end up in phone sex.

Phone sex is fine, but it takes more than sexual chemistry to establish a lasting relationship. If when your “guy/girl” calls you and you can think of nothing other than what he/she is wearing and/or what you would like to do to him/her, your relationship is based on sex and sex alone. You are going to have to find out more about that person and how can build a lasting relationship if that is what you want.

1) You can’t stand to hear the person speak outside of the bedroom.

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How is your relationship?

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